True love does not just exist without proper development.
Most times people misunderstand the difference between true love and lust and
as a result; there are problems in many relationships today. There is
absolutely no relationship that can last long when it is based on infatuation
or lust. You hear people say, “Its love at first sight”; and I want to tell you
that there is no such thing like love at first sight because you have to know
and understand certain things before you can develop true love to exist in a
relationship.
Your definition of what you think true love is matters a lot because
if you don’t understand the concept of genuine love; you will always have
problems in your relationship. True love isn’t all about sex and romance, it’s
not all about what you see and stand to gain either. It’s about doing things
the right way at the right time. True love is always patient and so when you
are not patient enough to build the relationship in love, then it’s going to
fail because lust has nothing to offer.
Remember; the extent of the relationship you have with your
God affects how you see love. God is love and His love is pure, genuine and
unconditional. He is always merciful even in our disobedience. True love is all
about the care and undiluted affection you have for someone even when that
person isn't perfect. It is unconditional, honest, and transparent and can’t
just exist at first sight. It develops with time to map its existence in a
relationship. I tell you that when a relationship is based on true love; it
lasts long.
Nowadays, people use the words “I love you” without knowing
what it takes to love. We have to be realistic when it comes to love because
professing love doesn't make it exist, rather showing it, is what stamps its
existence in any relationship. Most people actually have the type of
personalities that attracts their attention. You can admire someone’s dressing,
the way he/she talks or the tone of voice, intelligence, beauty, etc. at first
sight, but when you refer what you feel at that moment as the existence of
love, then that’s a misunderstanding because those feelings are not love but
can certainly be lust. That lust is the kind of love that fades away but true
love does not fade away. It breeds and increases to sustain any relationship. The
difference between true love and lust can’t be over emphasized because the
foundation on which a relationship is built really matters.
It is always better to define what you want from
a relationship. It is so because most people dabble into relationships with
high expectations and don’t even care to figure out if the other person
actually feels the same way. Partners in a relationship are expected to have
mutual interest in some areas in their lives to enable compatibility. Even when
there is a misunderstanding, both partners will always remember the great
moments shared on things and events of mutual interest thereby keeping the
relationship alive. This keeping alive helps create the atmosphere for love to
grow to existence in any relationship. All these can’t just happen in a
twinkling of an eye. I implore you to put aside lust cos your relationship will
only last long when there is true love.